What makes a woman of God? Is it the way she dresses? Is she modest? What about the way she speaks? Does she speak words of truth, kindness, love, and encouragement? Or maybe it’s her actions? Does she reach out to help others? Is she giving? Does she give to those in need or does she expect someone else to take care of them?
A true woman of God is a true worshipper of God. It shows through her words, her actions, and, yes, even the way she dresses. She is strong, faithful, submissive, modest, she knows her worth, and sticks to her truth. Thankfully we can learn to grow into such a character. God provides us with a perfect template for a true woman of God. He also gives us many biblical women figures that we can model after, but the main passages that God has told me are Proverbs 31:10-31 and Titus 2:3-5.
This will be a two-part post. Today’s post is part one and it will focus on The Virtuous Woman (Proverbs 31). Part two (which will be posted next Tuesday!) will focus on The Woman Who Leads Other Women (Titus 2).
So lets go!
When reading Proverbs 31:10-31, twenty main traits of the virtuous woman stood out to me.
- She is valuable. (31:10) She is more worthy than rubies and diamonds. Just like such precious stones, they are just as beautiful as they are rare. They are treasures that one would really have to dig up and find. Just like diamonds are made under pressure, sometimes the most beautiful women are created by the toughest adversity. It shapes and strengthens them; they become unbreakable. They know their worth and where they come from.
- She is trustworthy. (31:11) She puts her husband’s heart at ease. He trusts in her. He trusts in her abilities. He knows that he will never lack anything good in life because he knows the woman that God blessed him with. (Proverbs 18:22) Her friends and family trust her as well.
- She is good. (31:12) She is good to her husband, her children, and to everyone else, even to strangers. Most importantly, she is good to God (because by being good to others, you are being good to Him [Matthew 25:40]). This goodness she has inside of her never seems to wear off. It follows her all the days of her life no matter how ungodly this world gets because a virtuous woman stays rooted in God, who is good. She allows the goodnes of God to flow through her.
- She is hardworking. (31:13) The woman of virtue is no slacker. When she needs to, she seeks work and pursue it. She is a productive woman who works for others as if working for the Lord. She is not afraid of hard work. She handles responsibilities and gets things done.
- She is provisional. (31:14) It is mainly the husband’s job to provide for the family. The virtuous woman, as the man’s helper (Gen. 2:18-22), helps her husband to provide food for the house. She goes great lengths to find the best food she can and put it on the table.
- She is a homemaker. (31:15) Wow! “She also rises while it is yet night.” The virtuous woman is highly dedicated to her work and loves a good, early start to her day. She wakes up a dawn, says a prayer–I’m sure–and begins with her hously duties. If you have your own business or if you work from home, this point can also apply. This just reminded me of my late grandmother’s domesticity. Now my grandmama was one of the strongest women of God I’ve ever had a pleasure to know. She truly loved the Lord with all her heart! Every summer I would stay at her home in Virginia with my cousin. Every morning–and I mean every morning–she would rise at 5am, go into the kitchen and turn on her favorite gospel station on the radio. Sometimes her habits would wake me and my cousin right out of our sleep! She would then begin cooking breakfast while worshipping God and spending some well needed alone time with Him. Of course as I got older, I respected her routine more and more. It is also a woman’s job to keep the house in good shape (in a practical sense) by doing tasks such as cleaning and cooking.
- She plans wisely. (31:16) The virtuous woman is a planner. She is considerate, conscientious, and thoughtful. She is self-controlled and is careful not to act on impulse. Surely she asks God to intervene in her decision making so she can stay on the righteous path that He has for her. “From her profits she plants a vineyard.” She is rewarded for her wise choices.
- She is strong. (31:17) The virtuous woman is a confident soul who looks to God for strength when she is weak. She wears strength; she puts it on before she begins her day. “And she strengthens her arms.” She embraces a good challenge and welcomes it as an opportunity to grow stronger and closer to God.
- She is content. (31:18) The virtuous woman looks around at her possesions and is content with what God has blessed her with. She looks at where she is in her life and is thankful for the present moment and for how far God has brought her. She does not covet others for what they have nor does she compare herself with other women or compete with her. She is at peace with herself and with her life even with the flaws because she serves a God who is flawless.
- She is selfless. (31:20) She is mindful of the poor. She is compassionate and filled with empathy and love. She has a huge heart for the needy and gives without even thinking twice about it. She is a reflection of God’s heart, Whose eyes are always on the needy. She allows God to work through her so she can bless the poor and nurture them. She does not leave people helpless, but the God in her leads her to reach out.
- She sees the big picture. (31:21) Intuition. This wiman is sensitive to what God tells her and does her best to be prepared for whatever life throws her way.She is a visionary who works towards what God has destined for her. She is not afraid nor is she doubtful of the challenges ahead because she puts her trust in God. She knows that He will be there.
- She is creative. (31:22) She has a unique sense of style when it comes to dress. She is expressive. She embraces who she is. She is well put together and is modest with her clothing.
- She makes her husband look good. Her man is not ashamed of her at all. Her character seems to have quite an influence on him, his friends, and the church. Because of her popularity in the community, her husband is also well-known. He is very proud to call her his wife.
- She is gifted. (31:24) She uses the talents that she was given to bless others and she knows how to use them to serve God and others. She is a generous entrepreneur who is serious and dedicated to her business but also keeps God first in Her life above all else.
- She is optimistic. (31:25) She has a positive outlook on the future because God is already there. She has no reason to fear the unknown…but instead, she looks at the mysteries of tomorrow with joy.
- She is wise. (31:26) This woman of virtue speaks wisdom. Her primary source of wisdom is God; He is the Living Word. She also gains wisdom from experience, failures, and mistakes. She does not hold back anything the Holy Spirit is prompting her to say. She just opens her mouth and speaks words of encouragement and wisdom to those who encounter her. She lives and she learns.
- She edifies others. (31:26) The virtuous woman is always kind to others. She has a heart that is full of kindness that bleeds onto her words. She is a humble woman who lifts up others and not herself. She genuinely praises others and make them feel great. She encourages, uplifts, and inspires others.
- She is praised. (31:28) She is praised by her husband, by her children, by her friends, by other women, and anyone else involved in her life. She is praised for her character, her faith, her words, and her good works.
- She is rare. (21:29) It is very rare, indeed, when great virtue meets great beauty. She stands out like a rare diamond. She is a unique thinker and a unique leader.
- She is God-fearing. (31:30) This is one of my favorite verses in the Bible because it talks about how meaningful it is to have a relationship with God. It does not matter how attractive a person is or how charming, those qualities are empty if that person does not love or serve the Lord. Being God-fearing is the most vital trait of a woman of God. Not only is she favorable and beautiful but she has a relationship with the Lord, and that makes a woman stunning.