“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” ~Proverbs 27:17
How difficult is it to seek out and establish spiritual friendships?
In a world full of unbelievers, backsliders, and false converts, I’m not gonna lie…it can difficult looking for a good spiritual friendship. But stay encouraged, there are many true worshippers just like you who are looking for a stable, true fellowship in Christ. You are the spiritual, heaven-sent friend that someone else in this world is praying for. When you accepted Christ, He promises us Christian fellowship no matter how difficult or how long it takes to form spiritual friendships.
Why is it so important to have spiritual friendships?
Let me be real and say that walking with Christ is a beautiful struggle, but a struggle. We battle with our flesh every single day and become torn between what the flesh (world) wants and what the Spirit (God) wants. God knows we will not be able to walk alone. He knows that our human nature will cause us to backslide. So He provides us with brothers and sisters in Christ to guide us through our spiritual walk. He sends people who will accept us, pray for us, weep with us, correct us when we sin or go astray, edify us, and encourage us. It’s as though God is giving us pieces of His heart to us, for us. Our friends in Christ (or family in Christ) are put into our lives to make us better worshippers.
Is it normal or sinful to fight and/or disagree with a spiritual friend?
Believe it or not, this is absolutely normal. But it’s not a good thing, though. As children of God, we should all live peaceably among one another. But because we’re wrapped up in flesh, we will always have disagreements and conflict with others. Just like secular friendships have arguments, so will spiritual friendships. We are just as imperfect as non believers. We are still sinners. But in a Godly friendship, we learn and know how to squash any quarrels in a Godly way.
How should we maintain spiritual friendships?
Meet with your spiritual sisters often, whether you’re meeting them for lunch or a small bible study. Make sure you checking in with them often just in case they need encouragement, prayer, or if they just want to see you. This will help keep the friendship alive and beating. Water it and it will grow. If you’re not taking normal care of your spiritual friendship, it’ll wither and fade. I know this bit sounds a little generic, but it’s a tip we all need.
“And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.” ~Hebrews 10:25
Most of all, here are some ways to pursue these friendships:
- Seek out ministries and bible study groups in your area. Here you will likely find people like you who want to pursue Jesus. It’ll be easier to start conversation because a common ground is already established. You can then build on that foundation by asking something like, “what led you to get saved?” Also, ministries and bible study groups help you to keep in touch with the other members because you’re gathering with them consistently.
- Pray for Godly friendships. God does promise us godly friendships, but we still must be specific in what we ask for. Do we want something situational or long lasting? Do we want someone who meshes with our personality or someone who is kinda opposite from us and balances us out? The word of God says we have not because we ask not (James 4:2), so we need to tell God the qualities we desire in a spiritual friendship. No matter what, He will bless us with what we need.
God is a Friend who is with you at all times!
- Don’t be afraid to talk about Jesus! Who will know you’re a believer in Christ unless you testify and witness about Him? One of the greatest ways to attract other believers–unless you’re in a place of worship–is to talk about Jesus. The people you talk to will either draw back and feel uncomfortable, be drawn to you because they’re encountered by another believer, or they will be curious and want to know more about our Savior. Ether way, we always win when we talk about our Lord. Stay true to your faith!
- Matt. 18:20–“For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”
- Eccl. 4:9-12–“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
- 1 Thess. 5:11–“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.”
- 1 John 1:7–“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.”
- 1 Thess. 5:14–“And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.”
- Proverbs 18:24–“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
- James 2:23–“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”